Monday, 26 March 2007

The other bad news..

Had a discussion with my mum on the phone last night, as I do every Sunday. I really did have to bite my tongue and keep quiet otherwise I would have ended up upsetting her. Instead, I am cross with her , but I can't say so, which consequently has made me upset and annoyed, and I didn't sleep much last night. She is adamant she doesn't want me to come up and visit her for her birthday, and in fact, although I hope she was joking, never. She doesn't want anything for her birthday, well hard luck mum, I've already got some stuff, unfortunately though I won't be able to post some of it, way too heavy. She doesn't want to go out for a meal with my uncle and aunt, she just wants to be left alone and forget about her birthday.

She got very upset, uptight, couldn't relax and felt ill the last time I was up apparently, all my fault. She just wants to carry on with her life doing the same stuff day in day out, and doesn't want any disruption to this cosy little lifestyle, which apparently includes me being there. So that has completely stuffed my plans. Okay so it was going to be difficult as I couldn't get a pet carer, but I had it all planned and would have been able to manage 4 or 5 days up without having to worry too much about the pets, now thats all gone down the pan. I was quite looking forward to it too as the forecast was good for this weekend so the journey would have been okay. Am very pissed off now to put it mildly, but I daren't just do it as she is going to be upset, and I can't tell her I think she's being selfish, after all, it's her birthday, she can do what she wants, and I don't want to make her cry about it, so had better just forget it. So she won't get her shed fixed like I planned, so she'd better not keep on moaning about it every bloody time I speak to her. :(

6 comments:

oldcrow61 said...

Sorry to hear about the trouble with your mum. Parents can be difficult.

Leazwell said...

I don't know how old your mother is but I know they get harder to deal with as they older - very set in their ways. I want to clean when I go visit but my mother gets mad. She can't or won't and I guess I make her feel guilty.

nicola said...

well you dont have to come over just to see your mum, your friends would like to see you too

Pauline said...

Why don't you just turn up on her doorstep Jan and say Happy Birthday, she's your mum, you don't need to make an appointment, people do change with age, I remember my father-in-law used to get a bit nasty at times, but he was never like that in his whole life, so I knew it was his age, but it can be upsetting, and you may have just caught your mum on a bad day when she was tired. Pauline.

Jan said...

thanks everyone, but I think I'll have to leave it a few weeks, it's her birthday and she has the right to do what she wants I guess, the last thing I want is to annoy or upset her. I will maybe come up and stay in a b&b for a couple of nights or something so it doesn't put her out. She will be 80 on Friday.

Boo said...

My mother in law is just the same Jan. She has no interests at all and tells hubby off if he buys her presents for her birthday. I guess she is just set in her ways.